This article is telling about a new study about why we should let our partner's enjoy themselves in a wandering eye. To support this research, the article is showing the experiment and the conclusion for it. There were three experiments, each showing the relationship between peoples satisfaction and the limit they were given. It has proven that the more we limit and block our partner seeing a attractive person, it will make the relationship worse. As a conclusion the authors of this new study tells that an effective way to boost satisfaction during a relationship is to work on enhancing relationship processes that will naturally lead to decreased attention, such as focusing on positive aspects of ones partner.
It was very interesting because the study which is introduced in this article is actually talking about a situation which happens to a lot of us. For example, when we are with our boy/girl friend, if a attractive person(of course opposite sex) passes by us we happen to see that person. And as a normal respond we try to block our partner seeing at the attractive person and try to just focus at us. But in this article it is telling us that just blocking and limiting isn't a good way to make are partner concentrate to us. I first thought it was quite odd, but as a read through the article I was able to fully understand the writers idea.
But there were some parts I thought that this article should cause a argument because actually this experiment was involved with a group of 42 undergraduate students. But I think that the number of the group were quite small to prove the things the researchers wanted. And also, this experiment was tested by undergraduate students, which can't prove whether the conclusion of the experiment will work the same to other ages. So I thought that to be a more reliable experiment, there should be a larger samples.
Well... in some ways I think this research is actually true. How about you?
The research was a shock to me as well! But I guess what they're trying to show is to boost up satisfaction in a relationship we should think positively and even tolerate when our partner is wandering his/her eyes to other people!
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting experiment, and very practical! If the author wants to improve his research he may take more things into account. To mention one, number of days those couples were in relationship. Couples with a long relationship period may let their partners' eyes wonder just because of their indifferences towards them. Such indifference will only make the relationship worse.
ReplyDeleteI also agree the author's thought. I think if we were interfered by other people when we want to do something, such as not being allowed my eyes to see attractive people, we would feel bad, sometimes angry. It's natural. To make good relationships, we can just let them do what they want to and must focus on our positive aspects of partners. And I also agree that the evidences lack to prove that opinion. He needs to experiment other aged people.
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